I have a bit of that first-born overachiever mentality about me (okay, maybe more than a bit) and do my best to avoid failure.
I almost didn’t start putting a linky with my weekly camera phone posts: What if no one participated? What if someone else was doing the same thing, only better? (with the number of blogs out there, that’s a given)
I recently poured my heart into a post that crept beyond my comfort zone, but seemed to go unnoticed. I felt a little naked hitting publish, but the words begged to be written and there was a peace in it and a valuable lesson learned: lack of praise or affirmation does not equal failure.
I’m currently reading Seth Godin’s Poke the Box, and while it inspires me to attempt and succeed, more importantly it’s given me peace to try without fear of, well, bombing. Here’s the kind of excerpt from the book that’s changing my way of thinking:
“This might not work”
Is it okay to say these four words?
Is your work so serious and flawless and urgent that each thing you do, every day, must work?
Change is powerful, but change always comes with failure as its partner. “This might not work” isn’t merely something to be tolerated; it’s something you should seek out.”
Does fear of failure stop you from possibly flying? It’s okay to fail. What’s not okay is never to try.